Working Toward Your Goals

Are you moving towards or against what you want?

Every action you take supports something and leads to some result. But is it working toward your goals?

The question is – are you taking the actions that support the results you would rather have in your life?

Are you moving towards or against what you want?

If not, are they supporting something opposite to what you want or are they neutral?

Either way, they are not supporting your desires.

Changing Your Life

If you have all the same thousands of thoughts tomorrow as you did yesterday — you will be the same as yesterday.

Us humans have the type of brains that we have for a reason so that we can change our lives.

We don’t need to keep doing and living the same over and over.

To get anywhere, a group of small steps put together in the same direction lead you to your destination.

Start Working Towards your Goals With Your Thoughts

But if your thoughts and behaviours do not lead down the path of your desire, where are you going?

Do you have anything like a good work-life balance?

You will at least be delayed by the inconsistency of your actions or even halt any progress altogether.

There is always a reaction to every action, everything you think and do leads to something. Is it what you want or not?

What you live with now is the result of previous thoughts and actions.

Everything is perpetuated when you continue to take the same actions.

Adjust Your Thinking

So, desiring something different is great, but you need to adjust your thinking and your actions in order for anything to be different.

In order to see and live something different, you must gradually take more action toward what you want and less against it. You will always be supporting something, which will it be?

The way to begin change is to take a look at what you are doing each day and make appropriate adjustments that support your desires. If you leave this up to, ‘when I think about it’, you will soon forget.

As you begin to do this, you may identify skills that will help. For example, interpersonal skills that help you interact more effectively with others.

Adjust Your Routine so they are Working Towards your Goals

To succeed, set up a small system to interact with on a daily basis, something you can schedule and plan into your day, something you will be more likely to get into a routine with, something to interact with, utilising more of your senses.

Take the time to think about what you did and what you thought about, at the end of each day.

With this, you begin to see that you have a choice over your thoughts and actions rather than continuing to let everything be automatic.

Write your discoveries down and analyse them – do they help move you towards or against the life you want?

Do More Of What Works

You can do this at the end of the day just before going to bed or first thing in the morning. Do what works for you. If you find you can’t remember enough in the morning, better do it at night.

Don’t let the frustration associated with failure to immediately change stop your efforts.

At first, you might automatically revert back to how you have done it before, as this is your habit.

And habits want to remain as they are. You must be persistent.

At first, you may not even notice that you have not changed your action until when you sit down to analyse the day.

Noticing Is The First Step

After a while, you will begin to notice during the day whether you have reverted back or stayed on track working towards your goals.

At some point, you will catch yourself as you are doing what you don’t want to do, and then you become aware just before you do it, enabling yourself to choose to do it differently.

Stick with it. Small daily adjustments in how you think and act can lead to huge changes in your life if you persist.

Failure Means Try Again

Changing your life to be how you envision usually does not happen with one large event; rather it is the compilation of small changes you make in your thinking and action.

Remember action-reaction? Doing something towards change once in a while will give you once in a while results.

Start with something small and not very emotionally charged and you will find that your small successes will lead to more confidence and determination which will enable you to increase your personal power over your habits.

Personal growth is your responsibility – you decide to go towards or against what you really want each day.

The following article was contributed by John Halderman, who writes and speaks on personal growth.

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